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The Life Changing Power of Real Friendship by Dean Nelson
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”
Friendship. This is a tough one for guys. We are rugged individualists, the lone wolf, independent. We need no one. Until we need someone. Life will eventually bring you to the end of yourself. Yes, God is there even when no one else is. But, he designed us to be dependent on each other. He designed us to be in community. Why? So that we can remind each other where our identity, security, and meaning come from. Live life too long on your own and you will believe the lies that you tell yourself and that the world tells you about yourself. In a real friendship we can remind each other that our identity comes from what God tells us we are. His sons (and daughters for the women who read this). Don’t let your pride keep you from a good, godly, manly relationship.
Why Parenting Means Practicing Grace by Glennon Doyle Melton
“I felt so DONE. I was so tired of their fighting that I totally forgot that peace begins with me and I lost it.”
Yep, I’ve been there. I’m sure you have too. Finding myself stooping to the level of a 5 year old. All the while I’m supposed to be modeling patience, forgiveness, and grace. And I’ve botched it all up. But, there’s lessons to be taught out of our own mistakes too. When your kids see that you’ve screwed up and then own it, amazing lessons on forgiveness can be caught. Our kids really do need to see us mess up and then take responsibility for it. Otherwise all of the “Tell your brother you’re sorry. No, say it like you mean it.” are empty actions if they don’t see you live it. Don’t be afraid to ask your kids for their forgiveness. After all, God forgave us before we even knew we needed it (Romans 5:8).
How Successful People Work Less-And Get More Done by Dr. Travis Bradberry
“The study found that productivity per hour declines sharply when the workweek exceeds 50 hours, and productivity drops off so much after 55 hours that there’s no point in working any more. “
Read that quote again. After 55 hours of work in a week, you are so unproductive there’s no point in doing more. The study referenced in the article, completed at Stanford University last year, showed that people working 70 hours actually get the same amount done as those working 55.
Andy Stanley built (with God’s help obviously) his church of 12,000 on 40 hours a week. Spencer Rascoff, CEO of Zillow, doesn’t go in to work on the weekends and only checks his email in the evening. Paul Graham, founder of Y Combinator in Silicon Valley, doesn’t even have a smartphone.
So what do these and other successful people do to work less and get more done? Here are a few of the ten tips from Dr. Bradberry:
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Hey Fella’s, welcome to issue 11 of the Whetstone Newsletter. It’s hard to believe that many have come through. Thank you for taking the time to read this and forward it on. I appreciate it!
This week we have a warning that could save your marriage, freedom from parenting guilt, and tips on your work and faith.
Freedom from Parenting Guilt by Stephen Altrogge
“Little sinners sin. Two plus two is four, the Cleveland Browns will always be awful, and little sinners sin. It’s how the world works.
As my kids get older, I can begin to see more clearly their character and heart. Some of it encourages me, some of it makes me concerned. Some of it I can see in myself and where I’ve passed that on to them. In Stephen’s article he says there’s a lot of pressure to make our kids turn out a certain way. In that pressure and reflecting on my own parenting, a lot of guilt can seep in. But I can’t make my kids godly, I can’t make them righteous. That’s what happens between them and God. We do need to be committed to training them in righteousness. We need to be committed to the process, not the product of the process. But, “Don’t wallow in parent guilt. You’re not God. God rules the hearts of your kids, not you.”
“Jesus is the one who brings the greatest joy in our lives, and that includes the times between 9 to 5. Living as a witness for him in the workplace means more than a few religious rituals scattered throughout the day. It means getting to know the people around you, and then being known by them.
I telecommute for work and have for about the last 7 years. While I really enjoy it and the flexibility it gives me, I’ve also felt the loss of relationships built during work hours. Having been in the military, a police officer, and a supervisor in a jail for kids, relationships were sometimes all you had between you and some pretty tough stuff. I’ve also missed the opportunity to live out my faith in a more real or visible way. I still remember a conversation about how I was different than some of the others on the team. The reason: I’m a sinner saved by grace. You can be too. Joshua Whetstine’s (I’m taking that his last name has some sort of divine meaning for this newsletter) article points out 3 ways to be a faithful witness in our work:
Speaking of work, Stephen W. Smith’s new book, Inside Job, will be available in June. Right now he has a pre-order special that will get you $4 off per book and a free e-book copy of Soul Custody. I purchased mine yesterday and the e-book was immediately available. I’ve read several of Stephen’s books and can’t recommend them highly enough. You can learn more about the book and order it at http://www.myinsidejob.org/
I do not receive any compensation for the recommendation of this book.
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